Okay, I know the title of this post sounds a little harsh.  I just wanted to get your attention.  After all, I don’t really want you to suffer!  And suffering is what this post is all about.  Or rather – how to end suffering – by allowing suffering.

What, you say?  What on Earth?  How can you end suffering by allowing suffering?  Allow me to explain.

One of my favorite teachers, Eckhart Tolle says it so well when he says, “The ego says, ‘I shouldn’t have to suffer,’ and that thought makes you suffer so much more.  It is a distortion of the truth, which is always paradoxical. The truth is that you need to say yes to suffering before you can transcend it.” 

 

Eckhart Tolle Say Yes to Suffering

“The ego says, ‘I shouldn’t have to suffer,’ and that thought makes you suffer so much more. It is a distortion of the truth, which is always paradoxical. The truth is that you need to say yes to suffering before you can transcend it.”
~Eckhart Tolle

fortress around heart

What does he mean by this?  Why do we need to say yes to suffering before we can transcend it?  Well because otherwise, we’re resisting suffering.  And what you resist persists.  What you resist, you put your power into, thus strengthening and fortifying the very thing you are resisting.  And when it’s suffering that you resist, you make the suffering even stronger, more real, more powerful, and for even longer a time. 

Allowing yourself to feel vulnerable to suffering is to let go the illusion of control, and it’s one of the hardest things we can ever do in our lives.  If you let yourself feel vulnerable, you might have to feel all that pain you’ve been suppressing and denying and resisting, and that’s one of our most primal fears – even more than physical pain: emotional pain.

“Certain people, in their eagerness to construct a world no external threat can penetrate build exaggeratedly high defense against the outside world, against new people, new places, and different experiences and leave their own world stripped bare. It is there that bitterness begins irrevocable work.”  ~ Paulo Coelho

“Certain people, in their eagerness to construct a world no external threat can penetrate build exaggeratedly high defense against the outside world, against new people, new places, and different experiences and leave their own world stripped bare. It is there that bitterness begins irrevocable work.”
~ Paulo Coelho

Instead, why don’t you just let go of the illusion that you have control of anything outside yourself?  Stop trying to push back and fight back and play tug-of-war with a world that is nothing more than the reflections of your own projections.  Stop trying to protect yourself from suffering, for when you do that, you build up dark, dense walls around your Heart.  Your Heart is where you project from – so while you’re so busy keeping the pain out, you are also blocking your own light off from projecting a happier outer reality for yourself, projecting instead through filters built from the bricks and blocks of suffering.

"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse than the suffering itself. And no heart has ever suffered when it goes on in search of its dream." ~Paulo Coelho

“Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse
than the suffering itself. And no heart has ever
suffered when it goes on in search of its dream.”
~Paulo Coelho

Let yourself feel vulnerable to feeling pain and suffering.  The sooner you do, the sooner you give up the struggle, the sooner you realize that all that suffering is simply an illusion that you made up and turned into the big scary boogieman that was never even chasing you in the first place, but rather was simply trying to get your attention so that you could address the fear and let it out.  When suffering comes knocking at your door, understand that it’s not there to attack you.  It’s there begging you to let it go.  All you have to do is say yes.  Allow it.  Forgive it.  Let it be okay.  Get out of the past traumas and dramas, and stop worrying about the future.  Simply be Present, right here, right now, and let yourself let go.  Face your fears head-on by looking them right in the face.  You’ll find that the suffering you’ve been so worried about has been nothing more than the fear of facing the pain you’ve tried so hard to suppress.  And once you let yourself face it and feel it, you realize you’re still here, you’re still okay, and that it actually felt really good to face the pain and let it out… and that once you do, it’s no longer there building up like a pressure cooker, because once you said ‘yes’ to the suffering, you released all that steam and felt much better.

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